Excellent.
It's good that you have experienced all of these emotions at some point or that you are open to experiencing them.
This is necessary to heal.
Let's talk about one emotion in particular that is often uncomfortable for many people. It is not a polite emotion, and it is quite often considered inappropriate and rude.
This emotion is anger.
How do you feel about anger?
<<link "I am never angry">>
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<<goto 'Anger avoidant'>>
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<<link "I avoid being angry because its pointless">>
<<run trackDecision("I avoid being angry because its pointless")>>
<<goto 'Anger avoidant'>>
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<<link "I am afraid of being angry because I may lose control of myself">>
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<<link "I have seen people get angry and I never want to be like that so I avoid anger">>
<<run trackDecision("I have seen people get angry and I never want to be like that so I avoid anger")>>
<<goto 'Anger avoidant'>>
<</link>>
<<link "I allow myself to feel anger but I take no action when feeling anger">>
<<run trackDecision("I allow myself to feel anger but I take no action when feeling anger")>>
<<goto 'Anger accepting'>>
<</link>>
<<link "I am comfortable with experiencing anger whenever it comes up and just sitting with it">>
<<run trackDecision("I am comfortable with experiencing anger whenever it comes up and just sitting with it")>>
<<goto 'Anger accepting'>>
<</link>>It seems you are uncomfortable allowing yourself to experience anger.
When things are out of our control, one of the most common emotions to come up is anger. People usually like being in control (independence) and they hate it when they lose it.
It's common to believe that by allowing anger, you will lose control and do harmful actions, however, this does not have to be the case if you can sit with your anger.
Because of societal expectations and past experiences and most likely observing our childhood caregivers, people tend to bottle up the anger or even ignore that they are feeling it, leaving it unprocessed.
Psychologist and multi-book author Susan Campbell writes the following about anger:
There are 3 reasons for anger -
<ul>
<li>To be assertive (mark your boundaries)</li>
<li>To go after what you want</li>
<li>To express and release pain</li>
</ul>
When you express your anger it communicates you feel strongly about something - it says you respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself.
Honest anger is never about violent action or abusive words, but about self respect and assertiveness and fully experiencing the anger without taking any action.
How do you now feel about anger?
<span class="red-text">"I am feeling -----------"</span>
<div class="alien">"I am feeling -----------"</div>
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Excellent.
It sounds like you have a handle on your anger, or you are willing to allow yourself to simply experience your anger without taking any action. This mindset will help you to heal yourself faster.
I like to think of emotions as colors of the rainbow. They are all present, and together they form the white sunlight that we see. If you were to remove one of them, the sunlight would not look the same. So think of anger as one of the colors of the rainbow, it is necessary to have that beautiful sunlight.
Another interesting fact about emotions is that the more you allow yourself to experience them, the faster they dissipate.
Imagine if you are crying. If you cry harder, you'll stop crying sooner.
Or imagine you are very happy. The happier you are the faster the happiness dissipates, which actually sucks, because we'd love to keep that happiness longer, but just like sadness or anger, happiness doesn't stay. All emotions are temporary when we allow ourselves to experience them. Of course, we don't resist happiness, and in the same way we should not resist the negative emotions either.
Which reminds me of a famous saying "Whatever you resist persists." So the secret to healing is to allow whatever emotion is happening, to even accelerate it. Later you will see the emotional meditation process we use does exactly that.
You are making excellent progress having reached this point.
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